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October 9, 2012 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Parenting Advice from a Child

I saw this here http://ow.ly/5fUEg   and had to share it!  This will help me have patience and keep things in perspective!

Whether you have little ones at home or not, print this out, post it somewhere or share it with a friend.  This is something I need to remind myself of often.
Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have asked for.. I”m testing you.

Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it…. it makes me feel more secure.

Don’t correct me in front of people if you can help it I’ll take much more notice if you talk to me in private.

Don’t make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.

Don’t be too upset if I say “I hate you”. It isn’t that I hate you; I only need your attention.

Don’t protect me from consequences. I need to learn that way.

Don’t take too much notice of small ailments. Sometimes they get me the attention I want.

Don’t nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.

Don’t make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when they are broken.

Don’t forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I am not always accurate.

Don’t tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.

Don’t be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose my faith in you.

Don’t put me off when I ask you questions. If you do,you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.

Don’t tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to understand.

Don’t ever think it beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm to you.

Don’t forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me but please try.

Don’t forget that I love experimenting. I couldn’t get along without it, so please put up with it.

Don’t forget that I can’t thrive without lots of love. But I don’t need to tell you that…. do I?

Anonymous

June 12, 2011 Posted by | Encouragement | 1 Comment

Family Altar Part II

Want directions on making a family altar of your own?  Keep in touch as we put it all together.

May 2, 2011 Posted by | Encouragement, Family Devo Tips | Leave a comment

The Family Altar: Interview with Marty Gonterman on Family Devotions

Marty is a Faith at Home dad. Grown kids who love the Lord. I interviewed him about his “family altar”: worship as a family that he did at home.

April 28, 2011 Posted by | Encouragement, Family Devo Tips, Ideas | Leave a comment

Dad stats

Here are the stats I found based on my last video blog.

http://fatherhood.families.com/blog/awesome-dads-and-awesome-stats-part-two

Half of all children with highly involved fathers in two-parent families reported getting mostly A’s through 12th grade, compared to 35.2% of children of nonresident father families.

A study of 1330 children … showed that fathers who are involved on a personal level with their child schooling increases the likelihood of their child’s achievement. When fathers assume a positive role in their child’s education, students feel a positive impact.

As more fathers become involved in their kids’ lives graduation rates have increased significantly. The rates of crime, juvenile delinquency, and child abuse have substantially declined. Teenage pregnancy is lower. In fact, according to longitudinal studies listed at Fathers.com:

Children with involved fathers have less emotional and behavioral difficulties in adolescence

Teenagers who feel close to their fathers in adolescence go on to have more satisfactory adult marital relationships.

Girls who have a strong relationship with their fathers during adolescence showed a lack of psychological distress in adult life.

But nothing, I repeat, nothing can replace the role of the father in a child’s life. So, if you are a father and want to become a better one, you need to get informed, become involved in your child’s life – their education, their medical care, and their after-school activities. If you have been an absent father because of your own choice, or because of the court making the decision for you, make a stand. Look up some of these resources listed here and others like them to help you get back in the game. Your kids’ lives are depending on it.

http://www.dadsworld.com/parenting-statistics/importance-of-fathers.html

63% of teen suicides come from fatherless homes. That’s 5 times the national average.

SOURCE: U.S. Dept of Health

90% of all runaways and homeless children are from fatherless homes. That’s 32 times the national average.

80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes. 14 times the national average.

SOURCE: Justice and Behavior

85% of children with behavioral problems come from fatherless homes. 20 times the national average.

SOURCE: Center for Disease Control

71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes. 9 times the national average.

SOURCE: National Principals Association Report

75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes. 10 times the national average.

SOURCE: Rainbow’s for all God’s Children

85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes. 20 times the national average.

SOURCE: U.S. Dept. of Justice

Daughters of single parents without a Father involved are 53% more likely to marry as teenagers, 711% more likely to have children as teenagers, 164% more likely to have a pre-marital birth and 92% more likely to get divorced themselves.

91% of 701 fathers surveyed by the University of Texas at Austin agreed that there is a “father-absence crisis in America.” What were the 4 major obstacles for fathers to overcome? 1) Work demands 2) The media 3) Pop Culture 4) Finances

Researchers of Columbia University found that children living in two-parent households with a poor relationship with their father are 68% more likely to smoke, drink or use drugs compared to all teens in two-parent households. Moreover, teens in single-mother households fared much worse. They had a 30% higher risk than those in all two-parent households.

“Without two parents, working together as a team, the child has more difficulty learning the combination of empathy, reciprocity, fairness and self-command that people ordinarily take for granted. If the child does not learn this at home, society will have to manage his behavior in some other way. He may have to be rehabilitated, incarcerated, or otherwise restrained. In this case, prisons will substitute for parents.”

SOURCE: Morse, Jennifer Roback. “Parents or Prisons.” Policy Review, 2003

Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school.

SOURCE: National Household Education Survey

Children with Fathers who are involved are 70% less likely to drop out of school.

Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to get A’s in school.

Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities.

Even in high crime neighborhoods, 90% of children from stable 2 parent homes where the Father is involved do not become delinquents.

SOURCE: Development and Psychopathology 1993

Adolescent girls raised in a 2 parent home with involved Fathers are significantly less likely to be sexually active than girls raised without involved Fathers.

SOURCE: Journal of Marriage and Family, 1994

 

There is no doubt as to the importance of Dads. Read through some of these statistics we have provided for you and find out just how incredibly important the Dad’s role is for children to grow up to be well-adjusted adults. Kids with involved Dads do far better in every single measurable category, compared to kids whose Dads are not involved. Kids need their Dads.

Children with involved Fathers are more confident, better able to deal with frustration, better able to gain independence and their own identity, more likely to mature into compassionate adults, more likely to have a high self esteem, more sociable, more secure as infants, less likely to show signs of depression, less likely to commit suicide, more empathetic, boys have been shown to be less aggressive and adolescent girls are less likely to engage in sex.

They will model you.

Their view of God will be how they view you!

  • According to Rainer Research, approximately 70 percent of American youth drop out of church between the age of 18 and 22. The Barna Group estimates that 80 percent of those reared in the church will be “disengaged” by the time they are 29. Barna Group president David Kinnaman described the reality in stark terms: “Imagine a group photo of all the students who come to your church (or live within your community of believers) in a typical year. Take a big fat marker and cross out three out of every four faces. That’s the probable toll of spiritual disengagement as students navigate through their faith during the next two decades.” (Article from Christianity Today: The Leavers: Young Doubters Exit the Church, Drew Dyck)

April 27, 2011 Posted by | Challenging, Dads | Leave a comment

How Important Are You, Dad?

We dads often underestimate the influence we have on our kids’ lives. These stats will inspire and encourage you to spend as much time as you can with your kids. It’s the best use of your time!

 

April 5, 2011 Posted by | Challenging, Encouragement | Leave a comment

Starting Family Devotions The Easy Way

March 13, 2011 Posted by | Family Devo Tips | Leave a comment

This Week’s Splink…

This week’s Faith @ Home ideas from Splink are out: This week’s theme: obedience, http://bit.ly/fiM3GO

March 8, 2011 Posted by | Ideas | Leave a comment

Faith: Not A Drop Off Program–Part II

Now what?  What do we do?  What can grandparents and empty nesters do?

The common denominator most prevalent in kids having a faith that lasts was: they experienced Christianity lived out in the home: A faith that calls us to be different from the world, that knows God’s Word; that trusts in God to do the impossible, and that engages the world with the hope and love of Christ.

Message given at Trinity Presbyterian Church, 2-27-2011

March 4, 2011 Posted by | Why Bring Faith Home? | Leave a comment

Faith: Not a Drop Off Program Part I

The bad news.  The stats.  Why are we loosing so many students?   The common denominator most prevalent in kids having a faith that lasts was: they experienced Christianity lived out in the home: A faith that calls us to be different from the world, that knows God’s Word; that trusts in God to do the impossible, and that engages the world with the hope and love of Christ.

Message given at Trinity Presbyterian Church, 2-27-2011

March 4, 2011 Posted by | Why Bring Faith Home? | Leave a comment